POSTPARTUM IS CRAZY, MY WIFE HATED OUR SON FOR THE FIRST 6 MONTHS OF HIS LIFE – MAN SHARES

Before our son was born, my wife and I spent months preparing for his arrival. We bought tiny clothes, decorated his room and constantly talked about the kind of parents we wanted to become. But after the delivery, everything changed. My wife was exhausted. She barely slept, cried frequently and sometimes became unusually quiet. At first, I thought it was normal because everyone had warned me that having a baby would be difficult.

Then I noticed something that scared me. She seemed to resent our son. She would look at him and complain that he had ruined her life. Sometimes she would tell me she wished we had never had him. There were moments when she refused to hold him or even respond when he cried.

I was angry at first. I couldn’t understand how a mother could feel that way about her own child. I started thinking she didn’t love him. But I also noticed that she wasn’t herself. She was overwhelmed, constantly tired and emotionally drained. She would stare into space for long periods and sometimes burst into tears without knowing why.

I eventually spoke to a doctor, who explained that postpartum mental health struggles can be serious and that what my wife was experiencing needed professional attention. That conversation changed everything. We got her help, and I also had to learn that supporting her didn’t mean ignoring how difficult the situation was for me.

The first six months were probably the hardest period of our marriage. There were days I felt like a single parent. There were nights I was angry and exhausted. But slowly, things began to change. My wife started bonding with our son. Today, watching her play with him feels almost unbelievable compared to those first few months.

I used to think she hated our son. Now I understand that she was struggling badly and didn’t know how to ask for help. Postpartum is not always the beautiful experience people show online. Sometimes, new mothers need compassion, support and professional help—not judgment.