I AM IN SHOCK!!! MY DAUGHTER IN-LAW HAS TURNED MY SON INTO A HOUSE BOY- PAINED MOTHER LAMENTS

I am in shock. I never imagined that the son I carried for nine months, nurtured with love, and raised with dignity would one day feel like a stranger in his own home and worse, like a servant under his own roof.

Since my son got married, my heart has not known peace. The confident, hardworking young man I raised has gradually been reduced to a house boy in his own marriage. I say this with deep pain, not out of jealousy or hatred, but from the genuine concern of a mother watching her child lose himself.

What pains me the most is that my daughter-in-law stopped my son from working. She insisted that he quit his job, saying her salary alone is enough to feed the entire family. At first, I thought maybe it was a temporary arrangement or a mutual decision. But I soon realized it was neither. My son was not given a choice. His sense of purpose, independence, and pride was taken away from him.

Today, my son does not work, does not earn, and is not even allowed to take care of his family. Any attempt he makes to provide or contribute financially is shut down. Instead, his days are filled with cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, and running errands from morning till night. Helping at home is not the issue, I raised him to respect women and support his partner. But what I see now is not partnership it is slavery.

He wakes up early to do house chores and goes to bed late, exhausted, yet emotionally drained. He answers to commands, not conversations. Decisions are made without him. His opinions no longer matter. He has become quiet and withdrawn. When I ask him how he is coping, he forces a smile and says,” Mummy, I am fine”. But a mother knows when her child is not fine.

It breaks my heart that he is not even allowed to feel like a husband. A man should not be stripped of his role.

I did not raise my son to dominate a woman, but I also did not raise him to be controlled, silenced, and reduced to unpaid domestic labor. Love should feel like support, not imprisonment.

I cry many nights in private, asking God to give my son strength and wisdom.