MUSIC PROMOTER K-LIGHT: MARRYING A SINGLE MOM OF TWO WAS THE WORST DECISION OF MY LIFE

I was already in a serious relationship when she sent me a friend request. My then‑girlfriend had just broken up with me, and I was told it was because her family opposed her marrying a Yoruba man. Looking back, I realized the whole breakup was orchestrated by the woman who sent the request.

She slid into my DMs soon after, and we started talking. It seemed innocent at first, just casual chatting. But before I knew it, I was emotionally involved.

I soon discovered she was a single mother of two. Her children didn’t have a stable father figure. I thought I could step up. I wanted to help and build something meaningful. So I did. I rented a self-contained apartment in Ibadan for her and the children and stayed elsewhere when visiting so as not to disturb them. I also rented a mini-flat in Lagos in anticipation of our future together. Whenever I earned money, I prioritized her and the kids. If I made ₦500,000, I might give her ₦350,000 first and keep the rest.

During the pandemic lockdown, I landed a major project and made over ₦4 million. I used that money to pay her bride price, cover wedding expenses everything. We moved in together. She became pregnant with our child, and we shifted to a two-bedroom apartment in Lagos to start our family.

But something changed. The woman who once seemed excited and hopeful started pulling away. Her interest in the marriage faded. The weight of responsibilities, the kids, the house, the bills started to weigh heavily on me. I realized I was carrying more than I had ever bargained for. I had taken on emotional, financial, and parental roles I wasn’t fully prepared for.

Now I can say: marrying a single mother of two was the worst decision of my life. Not because she’s a mother that wasn’t the issue. The problem was that I walked into the situation without fully understanding what I had signed up for. The challenges of blending families, hidden manipulations, high expectations, and emotional fatigue, I underestimated them all.