YOU ARE BROKE BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT MARRIED — PASTOR KINGSLEY TELLS MEN ABOVE 28

Many single men above 28 believe they are not married because they do not have enough money. I am saying the reverse may be true. It is not because you lack money that you are not married; it is because you are not married that you do not yet feel the pressure to make more money.

As a single man, you can survive on very little. Noodles are enough for you. You can visit your married friends, eat their food, and return home comfortably. There is no strong pressure on you to stretch yourself, increase your income, or think long-term about life.

Marriage changes that.

Whether you like it or not, once you are married, responsibility rises. You are no longer living only for yourself. Decisions now affect someone else. Needs multiply. Priorities shift. And with that shift comes growth.

Statistically and practically, married men tend to earn more than their single counterparts. Not because marriage magically produces money, but because responsibility forces action. When a man commits to caring for a wife — and later children — something changes in his mindset. He becomes more driven. More intentional. He stops drifting and starts building.

Let me be clear: marriage is not primarily about financial readiness. Money is not the most important requirement for a young man to get married. Character, responsibility, emotional maturity, and good decision-making matter far more. If money were the main requirement, many responsible men would never marry, and many wealthy but irresponsible men would have successful homes — which we know is not true.

I also caution men against delaying marriage until 40. Life changes as you age. Energy changes. Perspectives shift. Starting a family later in life comes with challenges people rarely talk about, from health to long-term planning.

Marriage is not a trap, and it is not a shortcut. It is a catalyst. It reveals who you truly are and pushes you to become better. If you are waiting endlessly to “arrive” before getting married, you may be postponing the very responsibility that would have helped you grow.