We Made an Agreement to Cheat Once a Year ,But It Turned into a Disaster- Man Shares His Truth.

I married a very caring woman. She’s been with me through my worst, supported me when I had nothing, and built a life beside me. I truly appreciated her. But deep down, I always knew something was missing.

She never truly loved me. I could feel it. She liked me, respected me, but that deep emotional connection I craved just wasn’t there. I always suspected it was because of someone else — a man she loved before me, but her parents didn’t approve of him. I became the safer option.

For years, I tried to be enough. But the distance between us never closed. On our sixth anniversary, I suggested something unusual: that we each take one day a year to be with someone else — no questions, no guilt. I thought it might help us feel something we were missing.

She agreed without hesitation. That should have been my first red flag.

She came back from her first “day” glowing. Lighter. Happier. I did mine too, but it felt wrong. Still, I stuck to the deal.

With each passing year, she changed. More distant with me, but strangely more alive. I later discovered she had rekindled her relationship with the man from her past. The one she truly loved. She never stopped loving him — I had only given her permission to go back to him.

I followed her one year and saw her run into his arms like she belonged there. My heart broke in silence.

Eventually, she asked for two days a year. Then came the unraveling. His wife found out. She sent threatening messages, followed our kids, posted online about the affair. Our lives exploded.

Two families were destroyed. My wife collapsed under the emotional wreckage. I stayed by her side, but inside, I was broken. I had created the rule that gave her the freedom to destroy everything we built.

I thought I was being mature, progressive — but I was just making space for my own heartbreak.

Now, I sit alone. No wife. No kids. No peace. Just a haunting realization:

You can’t fix a broken marriage with open doors. You can’t bargain for love.

If you’re in a relationship that feels one-sided, talk about it. Get help. Leave, if you have to. But don’t turn pain into policy.

Because some experiments cost too much — and I lost everything.

Would you ever make this kind of deal in your relationship? Share your thoughts below.