My Wife Slept With Her Married Ex 3 Months After Our Wedding- Heartbroken Man Cries Out

Hello please I need help !!

My name is Raphael . I recently got married, but within just two months, I discovered my wife has been unfaithful. This affair actually started before I even came into the picture, and sadly, it has continued even after our marriage. She receives money and support from another man, and it has affected everything we planned together.

Since finding out, my life has turned upside down. I can’t sleep, I can’t think straight, and I keep asking myself why someone would knowingly destroy both her own home and another woman’s home. To make matters worse, she presents herself as a committed church worker, which makes the betrayal even more painful.
I’m sharing this because I feel broken, disappointed, and confused. Nigerians, I need your advice and prayers. I don’t want to carry this pain alone.

How do I handle this? How do I protect my peace when the marriage I entered with love and hope has already been damaged by infidelity?
This is my cry for help. Please guide me. Above is the picture of the man having an affair with my wife; that is his wife he got married to in 2017. I will also post my married picture from June 14th, 2025.

have tried everything possible to resolve this situation peacefully. I even suggested that we end the marriage amicably, but she refused. I have proof of everything, yet she continued to play mind games and deny that there has been any affair. It became clear to me that there was a plan between them, and I realized there were things I was not seeing before.

I asked her to return the Toyota Camry 2004 that he gave her to use during the wedding period. At the time, she told me the man was only a very good friend who did not live in Nigeria, but I later discovered that he frequents both Nigeria and overseas. When I insisted she return the car because the situation was no longer comfortable for me, she refused. even the man’s younger sister wanted to go public about this issue. But the truth is, she is not the one living with this betrayal – it is me. Through all of this, I admit I am not a perfect man, but all | ever wanted was for her to be remorseful and truly sorry, so we could plan our future together and build a happy home. Unfortunately, neither her pastor nor her family could salvage the situation.
Right now, I feel a deep need for a safe place to express my pain, because holding all of this inside is becoming too heavy for me.

I tried to end my marriage peacefully, but I was denied that chance. What I met instead of truth and honesty was denial and betrayal. My deepest hurt has been watching my wife protect another man she has been having an affair with, all because of her plans to leave the country. This has brought me stress, shame, and heartbreak.
Even when her family intervened, she denied everything, yet continued to take from me while living another life. The dreams we built together our future, our children, the family we were meant to create have been shattered.
This pain didn’t stop with me it extended to other familie.

Imagine the family of the man you’re having an affair with does not loke you ,they did a lot of things to make sure you got your own shre of pain your own late mother who supported us wholeheartedly, suddenly fell ill and passed away just a day after the wedding. Instead of things improving, the infidelity only worsened.
I share my story not to disgrace anyone, but so others can learn. Marriage must stand on truth, respect, and faithfulness. Without these, no marriage can survive.

I could have understood if you were simply like most of your friends, but you made me believe you were different. Yet now I see the same patterns-the same choices. One of your close friends left her first husband, married a second, and is still cheating on him. If marriage was never your true desire, you should have stayed single and continued in your lifestyle of chasing men, instead of dragging me into this deception.